One night stands – we’ve all had them, maybe not so much recently, but there is light at the end of the tunnel!
There’s a certain appeal and excitement to one night stands that keeps you coming back for more. They’re perfect for those who simply don’t want any commitment but also enjoy great sex. Get it wrong though and you could end up with all sorts of problems. Follow our one night stand survival guide to ensure you have a successful one night stand experience.
When you are planning a ONS, just remember the words of Benjamin Franklin:
'"By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail"
Like anything in life, a one night stand (ONS) is all about preparation, the better you prepare, the better it will be and the better your chances of surviving it and still having enough energy and resources to complete another one!
These simple tips will allow you to enjoy a safe and successful one night stand. Once you have read though this guide, why not check out our list of great adult dating sites to have your own one night stand?
Go To Their Place or a Hotel
One night stands are by their very nature unexpected. To avoid the embarrassment of having to take them back to your flat which resembles a bomb site its always best to go back to their place or splash out on a hotel. It also gives you an escape hatch if things don’t quite go to plan. If the chemistry’s not there or they turn out to be a psycho at least you can run!
Safe Sex Only
Let’s face it, one night stands are usually with strangers. You’ve only just met and don’t know much about each other’s backgrounds, especially sexual backgrounds. It’s common sense to be safe and wear protection. What was meant to be a fun filled night can easily turn into a nightmare if you pick up something unexpected. It really doesn't matter how 'clean' someone looks, smells, appears, or says they are, many STIs are symptomless and people are often unaware that they have one. Admittedly, some forms of recklessness and spontaneity are attractive; but there is nothing sexy about getting an STI.
Always Carry Protection/Condoms
This is really a follow on from the point above. I'm sure you've been in the situation with a hookup where you are both naked and are just about to do 'The deed' and realised neither of you have any condoms, and after you have searched in draws and pockets the 'moment' has gone. Don't make this mistake again - always be prepared!
Always Charge Your Phone!
We forget how dependant we are on our phones today that we don't really notice how much until we don't have access to them. If you go out with just 30% charge on your phone and end up having a ONS your phone will probably be dead by the morning. After a ONS you will most likely be in an unfamiliar area, thirsty, tired, hungry and just wanting to get home. Without your phone you won't be able to find out where you are, call a friend for a ride or order an Uber, find the nearest place to get something to eat and drink, or basically anything!
One night stands allow you to experiment and try new things! One night stand sex is very different to sex when in a loving relationship. The key is to share with each other what you’re into and what you really like. You won’t know each other’s sexual habits so communication is essential. If the other person doesn’t want to try something then that’s fine, just move one to things you’re both happy with.
Don't Hang Around Too Long
Depending on the situation it’s courteous to hang around for a short while after sex. It’s all too easy to get dressed and leg it straight after but hanging around for a chat after doesn’t commit you to anything! After all you clearly don’t want a relationship but a regular fuck buddy might be a good thing? When you have a one night stand both parties know it's just a casual thing, but there is fine line between being polite and overstaying your welcome. If you want to leave, or you get the feeling your partner wants some alone time, try asking them if they have any plans or commitments later that day, this will give them the opportunity to give a reason for you to leave with you both saving face, but still leaving the door open for another hookup.
Just Because You Have Seen Each Other Naked - Don't Treat Them Differently
Sex can change attitudes people's towards each other. If you see your one night stand in the street then there’s no reason to ignore them or cross the street to avoid them! It’s fine to acknowledge them! You might even meet them again in one of your social circles or through work. If so don’t make the situation awkward by being ‘funny’ around them.
Chances are, if you hookup up once, it could well happen again!